We all do it. You start out by helping. Most of the time money is involved. A large percent of the time it’s agreeing with the person by assisting him or her in making excuses. It could be siding with someone about gambling. Saying, “Barbara, so what, you like to play the slot machines sometime, no big deal. I enjoy it myself occasionally”. Then you notice yourself saying that so much. Then Barbara tells you she’s behind in her mortgage. She appears depressed and withdrawn. Yes, she’s now in a great deal of debt and has several payday loans. Instantly you feel guilty and it’s affecting your Self Care. You realize you’ve been helping feed her excuses.
Bob calls and explain he is having problems meeting his monthly expenses. You help him by loaning him money. He has an emergency come up again, you help him. You find out he’s not eating and is missing work. Once more, you come to his aid. Then it comes to you, what gives? He is able to work and has not paid you one dime back in several months. You are now angry and this is affecting your Self Care. Bob now avoids you because he owes you money. Think before acting, because too often you will be the one who suffers
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