Encouraging Thoughts

At some point in all our lives we all are confronted with sorrow, fear, and disappointments or something harsh. Having a true companionship during those times could certainly prove beneficial to one’s Selfcare.

Same are true for those happy moments. Having that one person to share, support, and help can make all the difference. If all possible, seek out that one person who you feel can be of support to you. You may even find that this person may be in need of your companionship as well.

Having a companionship can make all the difference in how you view matters!

We all do it. You start out by helping. Most of the time money is involved. A large percent of the time it’s agreeing with the person by assisting him or her in making excuses. It could be siding with someone about gambling. Saying, “Barbara, so what, you like to play the slot machines sometime, no big deal. I enjoy it myself occasionally”. Then you notice yourself saying that so much. Then Barbara tells you she’s behind in her mortgage. She appears depressed and withdrawn. Yes, she’s now in a great deal of debt and has several payday loans. Instantly you feel guilty and it’s affecting your Self Care. You realize you’ve been helping feed her excuses.

Bob calls and explain he is having problems meeting his monthly expenses. You help him by loaning him money. He has an emergency come up again, you help him. You find out he’s not eating and is missing work. Once more, you come to his aid. Then it comes to you, what gives? He is able to work and has not paid you one dime back in several months. You are now angry and this is affecting your Self Care. Bob now avoids you because he owes you money. Think before acting, because too often you will be the one who suffers

Unfortunately, in todays world we have to be really careful of everything and everyone.  Trusting a person’s word is not always a smart thing to do as it once was.  Such as:  Your Air-condition will not last throughout this summer.  We are having a sale now I would suggest you purchase a new one. It would save you hundreds of dollars by not waiting.  With this summer heat it will only place more strain on your old system.  

That oil leak is not good.  You will need to have that fixed right now or you will risk damaging your motor.  

Do your homework, investigate, get a second or third opinion.  By not doing your homework can bring on much stress, which no doubt can affect your Self care.  In the end you will be proud of the fact those expenses were not needed at this time at all.  

We are living in times where there are so much violence, hatred, and struggles.  We all must find a way to deal with this for our own Self Care.  I would like to suggest starting by simply closing your eyes for a moment (if it’s safe to do so) and say, “less violence and more world peace”.  You could be standing in line at a bank, waiting in a doctor’s office, or on an elevator at a hospital going to visit someone.

Make this a daily practice to say.  Our words can be powerful especially in numbers.  You will even find peace within yourselves for your part in helping to change the world.

We all do it, young and old.  You go into another room to get something. Even though it’s a short distance, once there you forget why or what you went there for.  The older we get the more we seem to forget.

Don’t just let this happen without doing all you can to prevent it.  There’s all sorts of word puzzles and word games to help keep the brain alert. Most stores that have magazines, also have word find puzzles.  You are given a list of words to the side. In the middle of the page are groups of letters. Your goal is to find the word in the group of letters and circle it.  You continue doing this till all the words in the words listed are found.  It can be very challenging.  You can find word puzzles from easy to very hard.  There are number puzzles that work pretty much the same way.  This will sure help to benefit the Self Care of our brain.  

We simply have to find ways to improve our Self Care. Games such as these can be done in the comfort of your own home, sitting in your favorite chair. Try it!